Here are four sure-fire ways to ensure your resume makes the right impression.
1. Your personal life is just that -- personal: One candidate included that he spent summers on his family's yacht in Grand Cayman, while another included family medical history. Hiring managers don't need to know personal information such as your waistline measurement or where you spend your summer vacations. Instead, include information on activities that are business-related such as memberships in professional organizations and community service involvement.
2. Simple. Bold. Professional: Using pale blue paper with teddy bears around the border (like one candidate did) isn't going to strike anyone as anything but weird. Three key ideas to keep in mind when formatting your resume are: simple, bold and professional. Instead of flashy formatting and stationary with borders or graphics, create a clean and polished document on resume paper with consistent formatting for headings and bullet points. To gain a hiring manager's attention, use strong action words such as 'achieved' and 'managed' instead of unconventional fonts or colored text.
3. One size does NOT fit all: If you're applying for a sales position, it wouldn't make much sense to focus on your experience in an unrelated field like education or information technology. Not only should you play up achievements and experience specific to the job you're applying for, but also provide quantifiable results. For example, it's easy to say that you have experience in sales, but employers will take note if you say that you were responsible for a 10 percent growth in overall sales.
Note: Including a picture of you in a cheerleading uniform, as one applicant did, also doesn't make sense.
4. Two sets of eyes are better than one: After you proofread your resume a few times, ask someone else to review it. A second pair of eyes may be able to catch mistakes you missed and could provide a fresh perspective on how to improve your resume
Have you ever had an argument with a friend or family member? Chances are that you have and that you know how difficult it can be to try to mend a relationship once an argument has taken place. Whether it is your pride or simply not knowing what you should say that gets in the way, you should never think that any relationship is too far gone without giving it another chance. Maybe during the coming Hari Raya celebration, you can take the opportunity to work toward mending your relationship that has gone sour.1. Take responsibility - It is natural to try to point the finger of blame at the other person. No one likes to admit that they are wrong. But it is precisely this kind of pride that leads to so many relationship problems. The fact of the matter is that 9 times out of ten both parties involved in the argument are going to be partially at fault. Blaming your own insufficiencies on the other person only angers them more and the conversation naturally turns to argument. Once you have made the decision to mend a relationship you must also take responsibility for your actions and for the faults that you brought to the argument.
2. Apologize - It sounds like a simple thing to do, but saying "I'm sorry" can be very difficult. Apologizing is a significant part of mending a relationship because in doing so, not only are you swallowing your pride and showing humility, but you are also sincerely asking for the other person to accept your apology.
3. Listen to the other person's point of view - In an argument there are always two sides to a story. While we are arguing chances are that we are less likely to be really concentrating on what the other person is saying, and more likely to be thinking about what we will say next to further "stick it to `em." Once the heat of the moment has cooled express your desire to hear what the other person has to say and really sincerely want to understand where they are coming from.
4. Express your feelings - You cannot mend relationships by simply always admitting that you were wrong and giving the other person no responsibility whatsoever. Relationships involve two people and just as you were willing to hear out your friend, you should be able to now express what you were feeling when the argument took place. Speaking of your own emotions can be difficult especially if those emotions are still close to the surface. As best as you can, you should use "I" statements (statements where you begin your sentences with "I feel," "I thought," etc.) rather than on criticizing the other person.
5. Give it some time - Mending a relationship that has gone sour can take some time, especially if you have waited a long time to try to resolve your differences. Accept that there will be times when even after talking to each other respectfully you still feel hurt or offended. When something such as trust is broken it will take time to build that trust up again. Harsh words can cut deep and those wounds do not always heal over night. Be willing to do what it takes over the period of time that you and your friend will need to set things right again. If you really value the relationship you will give the other individual as much time as they feel that they need to forgive and forget. Remember that you cannot change the past; all you can do is try to build a better future relationship.
MAY I ALSO TAKE THE OPPORTUNITY TO WISH ALL MY MUSLIM FRIENDS
"SELAMAT HARI RAYA AIDILFITRI, MAAF ZAHIR DAN BATIN"
LONDON: Lelaki dan wanita akhirnya mempunyai satu perkara untuk dipersetujui - cara pemikiran kedua-duanya tidak sama dan ia dibuktikan secara saintifik untuk menjelaskan misteri yang sudah berlanjutan bertahun-tahun lamanya.
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A lot of us are out there watching what we eat and exercising, but still not making a dent in our bellies and body weight. There are a few things we are probably not doing, or doing too much of, that would mean major improvements in our health.
Get more sleep. After a very short period of time (about 6 nights), studies show that your glucose levels can rise if you get only 4 to 7 hours of sleep each night. New parents are excluded, but everyone else should try to hit the 8 hour mark as often as you can and get to bed BEFORE midnight. Every hour of rest before 12 a.m. is twice as valuable as the hours after midnight: Our cortisol levels are lowest before midnight therefore our recovery is the highest.
Eating fewer refined and processed foods. Avoid fast and fried food and try to consume as many real foods as you can. It's also imperative to get enough fiber (helps with elimination); fruits and veggies are a great way to fill up.
Avoid sugary drinks and reach for more water. Water is great for so many things like digestion, eliminating toxins in the body, and transporting important nutrients to our cells which need energy to burn calories. Americans drink 20% of their calories, so be careful of that silent pitfall.
Get to know your kitchen. I realize it takes more work, but the simple truth is we eat out or order in too often. There is a greater opportunity to control what is in your food if you cook it yourself.
Slow down. When you do sit down to a meal, don't wolf it down. Our culture encourages eating while driving or sitting at our desks. The only time we seem to sit down and enjoy our food is at Thanksgiving. The monks chew each bite of food 100 times (which is excessive), but they also eat only until they are full. They recognize that chewing their food more makes it easier for the body to digest.
Breathe. There are so many days that I don't breathe deeply. In the morning, mid-afternoon, and at the end of the day take a 10 conscious, belly-deep breaths. Close your eyes, pull that air deep into your stomach via your nose and let all the junk out through your mouth. Whether its a stressful day, or you just want to start and end your day on the right foot, breathing is important.
Don't starve yourself. Oddly enough some of you may not be eating enough, and the lack of calories is putting your body into save mode. Our bodies are so brilliant, and if they aren't getting enough food, your metabolism will tell your body to store each and every calorie it receives or to make energy from whatever muscle tissue you have. Not good. Oh and by the way, don't skip breakfast. People who skip breakfast are over 4 times more likely to be overweight.
Do more than exercise. Even if you are working out, you can't eat and drink whatever you want. It really is a three sided puzzle: balancing exercise, food, and (oh yes) the spirit (which stress and happiness play into).
They are deeply attracted to individuals whose faces are similar to that of their opposite-sex parent, they said, suggesting that this characteristic is rooted in an evolutionary drive.
A team led by Tamas Bereczkei at the University of Pecs in Hungary created a model of facial ratios – width of jaw, distance between mouth and brow and so on – comprising 14 facial zones. They measured 312 Hungarian adults from 52 different families using this method. Each family included a couple, along with two sets of parents.
The researchers found a significant correlation in facial similarities between a woman’s mate and her father, and also between a man’s partner and his mother.
The team tested the model on faces that were randomly selected from the general population and repeated the experiment with a panel of judges, who also picked out the same pairings from randomly selected groups of photos.
Interestingly, men and women focused on different parts of the face when they home in on a potential mate, they found.
A man’s lover and his mother tended to have similar fullness in the lips, width of mouth, as well as length and width of jaw. But for women, the critical features were the distance between mouth and brow, the height of the face, distance between the eyes and the size of a man’s nose.
The choices are driven less by psychology and socialisation and more by evolutionary pressures, suggests Bereczkei.
Too much genetic overlap – as can happen with incest – is an evolutionary no-no. But seeking similar genetic traits "may confer individuals with additional adaptive advantages", he wrote.
It could increase the degree to which parents share genes with their offsprings, enhancing the genetic representation of future generations. Finding similar partners might also help perpetuate genetic complexes that have evolved to adapt to a particular environment.
Also, human couples who are similar in physical and psychological characteristics are more likely to remain together than dissimilar partners, possibly leading to an increase in fertility, the study concludes.
The research appears in the British journal, Proceedings of the Royal Society B. - AFP
1. He's superprotective of his gadgets. "The main way that trysts are found out is through the discovery of incriminating e-mails, IM chats, cell phone texts or bills," says Belisa Vranich, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in New York City. So if he's being unfaithful, he may guard his gadgets or act really defensive when you innocently touch his phone or computer. It should be a giant red flag if he readily gave you passwords in the past, and now he's more evasive..jpg)
